What is Chiczofrenic?

Posted on June 30, 2011 by laina

CHICZOFRENIC is my coined term for the woman who is purposeful and intentional in how crazy her life may be. I came upon this shift on a plane ride back from a conference and thought how even though I enjoyed the conference, I wasn’t as passionate as maybe I should’ve been about business. That led me to think about what I was passionate about. After much brainstorming- I realized this was it.
We need to recognize that so many of us women drive ourselves crazy, intentionally, by trying to be all we can be. I firmly believe we can have it all. A great relationship, marriage, be a great friend, a great mom, keep a good house (if that’s important to you, it’s not one of my top five), be a career woman, follow our dreams, work out, eat right, and many other things. However, somewhere while trying to accomplish all this, we can tend to go a little nuts. Some more than others, and some longer than others. I used to think I was normal. HA! What a reality check I’ve had. Normal is relative. I’m sure Howard Hughes and Andy Warhol thought they were normal.
Know it’s ok to feel overwhelmed with all you have to do to have it all. Life isn’t easy. However, we all deserve to have what we want. Women seem to have the knack of how to manage it all and not go too crazy. Women seem to always take on more and more…and dammit, we’re successful at it.
Being a woman is difficult and a constant evolution of self-discovery. It’s not an easy journey and through the process you realize every woman has her own issues, her own brand of crazy, which is my favorite kind of normal. Crazy is fine. Embrace it.
Women have tried forever to pretend they fit in the norm even when the norm wasn’t what they wanted. I want women to embrace what it is they truly want – without caring what anyone thinks. Learn to laugh at your own craziness and be cool at the same time. Be the strong individuals we all want to be while looking like a million bucks.

Laina

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Happy Monday – Happy March!

Posted on March 7, 2011 by laina

I love March because I feel it is the home stretch to spring and open toed shoes.
I spent time this weekend thinking about purpose. Purpose in what I am doing and why I am doing it. I know that in many areas of my life I tend to gravitate toward the nearest shiny object and while that has always worked for me for the most part, it’s also kept me so busy with a million balls in the air that I feel with more purpose I can have a little more breathing room to enjoy more down time.
Part of being able to have purpose, and therefore focus on what is really important, is to not lose sight of yourself Ensure you are being fulfilled and not making your purpose about someone else. I think that sometimes can be hard. We have people in our life we want to take care of and want to do things for and it is so easy to do that at the expense of who you are and what you want. But that’s not good for you or the other person. There needs to be that balance.
So here’s to purpose and focus and taking care of you!
Cheers-
Laina

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Emotional Capital

Posted on January 21, 2011 by laina

Those who know me know I’m not a big fan of the warm and fuzzy. However, my blog post today is all about the importance of connection and relationships. With my background in HR I talk a lot of Human Capital, essentially the ability to measure return on employees. After attending a fantastic meeting this morning I started to think about the importance of Emotional Capital, which by my made up definition is the amount of the warm and fuzzy we get from others. Last night and again this morning I received that in abundance.
Sometimes life gets so busy I tend to not think about the people around me and how truly important they are to my well being. Last year I had a conversation with someone about how many friends I had and I remember replying that I had a lot of acquaintances but not really friends. The person I was talking to seemed to find that strange and asked me what my definition was of friend. I found I really didn’t have one but I just knew I didn’t have any. Their reply to me was they thought that was sad. That conversation has stuck with me all year and has replayed itself in my head almost daily as I have come to realize that I have a lot of great friends. More than most people and probably more than I deserve because the other thing I have learned is friendship is a two way street. Real friends are tough on you to make you a better person and are with you every step of the way on your journey. Friendship, like any relationship, is not easy.
I saw a quote the other day and forgive me for not remembering the author but it said “Friends are the ones who love you when you don’t love yourself” and nothing could be truer. This past year I have found so many people who love me in spite of the fact I thought of them as acquaintances rather than true friends. These people have spent the year investing in my Emotional Capital in a year when I have been bankrupt. I can’t express how lucky I am that these investors believed in me despite of my beliefs in myself.
Remember we all need an investment in our Emotional Capital. My goal for the remainder of the year is daily to thank those people who have made an investment in me with no expectation of return.

Laina

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Good inspiriational book

Posted on December 23, 2010 by laina

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One of my favorite inspirational books is This Is Not the Life I Ordered. It is simply a journaling of the main characters and their life stories and their journey’s and how they persevered and were able to receive strength from each other in order to make it through those times of success and failure. I would encourage you to pick up a copy as it is one of those books that is good to have on the book shelf for those times you need a little pick me up. Let’s take today for example. It’s Monday, and because of a lot of craziness in my life, I definitely needed some inspiration to get me going. Throughout this book are quotes that I enjoy and the one today that caught my eye was from Cicely Tyson. It says “Challenges make you discover things about yourself that you never really knew. They’re what make the instrument stretch- what make you go beyond the norm.” What it said to me today is that instead of letting those challenges get us down we need to look at them as ways to make us better. It’s not always easy but it’s a better alternative than being sad and depressed about what might seem like an insurmountable challenge.

Laina

If you can’t change it, move on

Posted on December 12, 2010 by laina

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As I am laying in bed thinking about why I can’t sleep ( thank goodness for the ability to blog from my iPhone ) I think back to all the recent times where I haven’t been able to sleep and realize most of the time it’s because I can’t let go. Whether it’s obsessing over a work issue or personal one, I seem to spend a lot of time worked up over something that I can’t change. So why do that? I have to think it’s because on some level I haven’t completely realized I can’t change the outcome or maybe it just makes me feel better to stew over it.

Letting go can be hard. When you have time and energy invested in something and you’re emotionally vested it can be hard to just get over it and move on. Especially in relationships.

Getting over a relationship is probably one of the most difficult parts of life. There is no aspect where you are more emotionally vested than in a relationship. Of any kind. As much as that letting go process can be painful it’s a necessary pain. It helps you grow and develop as a person. One needs to always be cognizant of what we are learning from this process. Again not always easy when you’re in the middle of the process but there is always a positive in any situation. At least I like to tell myself that.

I also like to think that when you finally let go another door opens. It may be different than the path you originally thought but that’s ok. Embrace it and realize when letting go you are freeing yourself to accomplish bigger and better things.

Laina

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Sarah McDonald – positive in the face of MS.

Posted on May 12, 2010 by laina

This Saturday I had the pleasure of spending some time talking to Sarah McDonald. A outgoing, 25 year-old who was diagnosed with MS at the age of 18. As a former Nursing student, Sarah calls herself a natural caregiver. Instead of letting MS get her down she says her focus is not on feeling sorry for herself for having this disease but rather on being an advocate for increasing awareness for the disease and helping others. Something that is definitely needed.

Thanks Sarah!
Laina

Blogmania Winners!

Posted on May 6, 2010 by laina

Thanks everyone for being patient while I was recovering from my bout of strep. And I am such a good mom…I gave it to my kids.What can I say, I like to share.

I had such a good time reading and responding to comments and checking out everyone’s blogs. This was a great event and a big THANKS goes out to our organizer, Lynda Coker, as this wouldn’t have been possible without her passion.

Without further ado (I have always wanted to say that) the winners of a copy of Stilettos & Scoundrels and a $10 Target giftcard are:

Susan at susan56bft@gmail.com

Crysteena at crysteena73@aol.com

Kelly at kellysluckyyou@yahoo.com

Congrats and I will be contacting you today for shipping details!

Thanks everyone for making it a great event.
Laina

It’s not as easy as it looks

Posted on March 2, 2010 by laina

I’m referring to the take care of yourself statement I made yesterday. I mean I started my day out to you all saying how that was something you had to first and foremost and yet after about 5 minutes I threw that out the window and started doing for someone else. I supposed I could go on about how altruistic that is and I am such a good person. But the fact is that I’m not. Usually I think “what’s in it for me” and the fact that at this moment in time it would be a big fat ZERO has me pondering.

While I’m thinking about that dilemma I do want to share with you my moderately successful start with book sales. I have been selling a lot out of the back of my car which is kind of fun and a few over the internet. I thought the Kindle would be selling a little more but I prefer actual books so maybe other folks do too?

Are you struggling with what you are doing versus what you want to do? I would love to hear about it.
Laina

PS don’t forget MS awareness week starts next week!

Stilettos & Scoundrels Book Release – Rainmakers Main Event Tuesday Feb. 23rd.

Posted on February 19, 2010 by laina

Come to the release for Stilettos & Scoundrels at the Rainmakers Main Event. 20% of all proceeds from this event will go to the Indiana MS Society. The will be a member of the Indiana MS Society in attendance to answer any questions as we get close to the kick off of MS Awareness week March 8th.

If you can’t make it there will be other events or buy the book online at www.lainamolaski.com. Also available on Kindle. 20% of all online purchases prior to March 1st will benefit MS.

Fun Saturday

Posted on February 13, 2010 by laina

Today has been great. Well except I didn’t get as much work done as I should have today but the night is young. I am writing this post from Lindsay Manfredi’s new Mac book and I really am loving this keyboard. It’s backlit and just feels nice. The computer is thin and light. I may become a convert to Apple.

Anyways, today I was supposed to finish the edits to my business book but I have so much on my mind. Have a job offer on the table that to be honest is not something I would normally consider as it’s being someones assistant. However, this is a unique situation and I not only think I could really help this business grow but it’s a very productive place for me to work. It will be a switch, as I am using to having an assistant not being one, and I really don’t like being told what to do. But all that aside…..I’m really considering it. In a crazy way I could call it an investment in my future or conversely a huge waste of my time and effort.

The person I would be working for knows how lucky he would be to have a PhD. and all around fabulous chick like me. One main drawback is I always say don’t work for friends and we are friends. I would hate for something to ruin that.

What to do…what to do.

Happy Valentine’s Day everyone!!!!

Laina

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